“What kinda partner are you looking for?”
Pretty common question we’ve all heard, hears or yet to hear. Right. We also hear pretty common answers. Like, “I don’t know!” “Hmm, a good one?” “A beautiful one.” “A handsome one” “A rich one” etc. and etc.
But does anyone say a responsible one?
Yes, a responsible one. When we truly love the right person or should I say the responsible person that is meant for us we start loving our own self in the process. In fact, we find our own self. We don’t lose or breakdown. Because if that person is the one worth fighting for they won’t certainly allow that. Relationships can be super complicating. Primarily, the human relationships. Talk about it right. But any fruitful relationship teaches us to love our own self as much as we love the other be it our loved ones, career, or even dreams. That’s the partner you are looking for.
It simply makes us find ourself, not lose it. You know I’m not this relationship expert, I’ve never even had one, but I do have a deeper understanding. So, to whoever makes mistakes in this. In finding the unsuitable, I’m telling you. Don’t lose yourself. It’s part of the process of life. Not anyone can nail it at first. And if you haven’t, it means you don’t deserve that. It’s also not a journey full of roses all the time. But we shall train our mind to not give the privilege for anyone or any situation in life to make us feel depressed, down, anxious or questioned at any touchpoint of our life. It’s hard, but nothing comes in easy in life. Specially, the best things or ones.
Now let’s talk about love, what’s love?
Love has many definitions. Some say it’s a force. It’s an emotion. Some find it as happiness. But what exactly is love?
I’ve been thinking, and here are some of my penned thoughts about love. So, here are some of my own observations made on love giving you the privilege to read them.
Ahem, here we go.
‘You know it’s love, when you fear losing them.
You know it’s love, when you support them, and motivate them with expecting nothing in return other than their growth.
You know it’s love, when you feel the spark, the rush in you even for a little text, call or in their absolute presence.
You know it’s love, when you love the little efforts to all the no efforts.
You know it’s love, when they don’t judge you for who you are.
You know it’s love, when they don’t make you feel like you are a less.
You know it’s love, when you are still comfortable even after the little fights and struggles.
You know it’s love, when their smile can make your whole day.
You know it’s love, when you can’t forget them no matter how hard you try.
You know it’s love, when they inspire you to become your best self.
You know it’s love, when you want nothing, but the best for them even if it counts a sacrifice.
You know it’s love, when you share that connection, and be comfortable as two bestfriends.’
And you definitely know it’s love, when you find them as the responsible person whom you feel you are secure with for the rest of your life.
You know love isn’t only about giving without expecting. I believe true love gives, supports and nurtures mutually. That is both the giver and the receiver. And the only expectation you should focus is if the love of your life helps YOU be your best version too.
Don't rush. Take time.
And marry the one, whom you find motivating, and inspiring every single day. The one who is full of surprises. The one who is able to afford needs that you’re incapable of or at least willing to afford together. The one who turns you on. Yes, good looks (we can’t beat the human cognition!).
BUT the one who is responsible to do all the above.
Above all, choose the one who can/will be a responsible partner, responsible father or wife to your children, and a bestfriend whom you can openly communicate. Because this is a crucial choice in our life. Now, no one can’t say, “I’m out of choices” or “I can’t make a choice”. No! Because a choice is a gift from the universe blessed to all of us. However, not being able to make the right choices, or not having enough wisdom to make the right choice is our issue isn’t it. And that does not mean we are out of choices. We all do have a choice, and it is completely fine to make mistakes. We make mistakes, but we learn, and we do not repeat them. So, this is a crucial choice in our life. You choose a total stranger to live the rest of your life with, to grow with, to share with. So he or she has to be a responsible person who knows the typical importance of balance in life. The importance of relationships, and how to nurture them, consistently.
Yes, consistency is key as in every aspect of life. So, the next time you’ve been asked, “what kinda partner you looking for?’ Well, perhaps you can say, “I’m looking for a responsible partner” lol.
So, yeah that’s it right.
